Mar 12, 2013

Happy Birthday Aryaa!

Today is Aryaa's eighth birthday. We are filled with unimaginable joy and happiness because of being blessed with her. She has grown healthy, wise, tall and strong in last seven years. She is a very lovely and sensitive girl. She is very kind and friendly.

We took her to a temple early in the morning today to make a worship. We will later take her to an orphanage to make some donations. We have persuaded her to make such donations instead of organizing crowded parties. She accepted it easily after we talked her about orphans and their difficult life.

Wish you a Very Happy Birthday Aryaa! May your life be fulfilled with health, joy and successes.

Your MAMA and PAPA will always be there for you!

A pic from last summer

Sep 7, 2012

Tips for Dealing with Separation Anxiety in Children


Few things tug at a parent’s heartstrings like the cries and pleas of a child in the throes of a separation anxiety attack; still, they are a normal (if distressing) part of childhood development. With proper coping strategies and plenty of love, the worst of your child’s anxieties can be managed until he’s older, at which point most children tend to outgrow their fears of being separated from a parent or familiar adult.
Managing your child’s separation anxiety and helping her to cope with the necessary but painful routine of parting is a matter of being patient, for the most part. Keeping your composure and maintaining a grip on your patience is absolutely necessary in order for you to successfully employ other management techniques.
  • Establish a Goodbye Ritual – Sharing a special goodbye ritual with your little one is both comforting and reassuring to her, letting her know that staying at school, daycare, or under the care of a nanny is a new part of her routine. Because structure and repetition are so important to young children, establishing a ritual that accompanies every separation can help normalize that separation, making it less stressful for her over time.
  • Stay Calm – Kids react to the emotional state of a parent or loved one, so allowing yourself to become overly emotional or anxious in her presence is likely to only exacerbate the anxiety and fear that she’s already feeling. Maintain your composure as best you can, saving the emotional moments for a time when you’re out of her sight.
  • Don’t Hover or Linger – While it might seem that your hysterical child will never calm down after you leave, childcare providers will almost always reassure you that their emotional state will improve dramatically once you’re gone. Lingering around and hovering over her will only prolong the process, stretching out both her suffering and your own.
  • Speak with Caregivers and Teachers – Experienced childcare providers and preschool or kindergarten teachers are well-versed in reassuring both hysterical children and their concerned parents, so don’t hesitate to speak with them about how your child is adjusting. When normal separation anxiety is particularly difficult for a child to shake, or persists after a significant adjustment period, these people are your best allies in combating your little one’s fears and helping her learn to cope with separation in a calm, healthy way.
  • Resist the Temptation to Sneak Away – It can be very tempting to wait until your child is distracted and slip quietly from the room, but this may not be the most productive method of dealing with her separation anxiety. Looking up to find you inexplicably gone, without any sort of a goodbye, can lead to a panic that she’s been abandoned or, at the very least, to feel that she can’t always trust that you’ll be where you should be.
  • Communicate With Your Child – You can help prepare your child for preschool, kindergarten, or childcare by talking about the upcoming change, practicing separation on a small scale, and answering any questions that she has. These methods can be very effective in preventing the worst of her anxiety before it starts, and maintaining that open line of communication as she adjusts to her new environment and has new experiences is vital.
  • Be Firm and Consistent – Don’t waver or bring your child home after a particularly bad outburst, as it sends the message that a tantrum will yield the desired result of either leaving daycare or school with you or sending your nanny home, rather than being separated. Focus on maintaining a firm but gentle demeanor, and a strong grip on your resolve.
  • Know When Separation Anxiety Indicates Something More Serious – While separation anxiety is a very natural, normal part of growing up for many children, there are times when it could indicate something more serious. If a previously happy, well-adjusted child begins to regress and show signs of anxiety again, or if existing anxiety is severe and does not lessen with time, you should contact your pediatrician or medical provider for advice.
Kids that suffer from separation anxiety rarely require the attention of a medical professional, though those that do may have an underlying anxiety disorder than manifests as a profound fear of being separated from a parent or loved one. Be sure to let your pediatrician know exactly what’s going on with your child, especially if her behavior is regressing; reverting to immature habits can be a sign of abuse, and should be taken seriously.

(This article is from http://www.liveoutnanny.com. I got a request from them a few weeks ago to share it in my blog.)  

Jul 6, 2012

Stars and butterflies

It was more than six months ago.

"Papa, what do humans become when they die?" Aryaa asked suddenly one day. I knew that question would come someday and I was afraid of that. I avoided talking about death as much as possible. My stories for Aryaa were always deathless:) But my efforts were meaningless. I now think Aryaa's knowing and asking about death was a part of natural development of her understanding of life. 
"Well, hmmm----, when we die, our soul comes out and it goes------" I just couldn't coin any answer.
"What's 'soul'?" She asked again innocently. Probably, she had heard 'soul' for the first time.
"Well,-----, soul is inside us------' I started to become more and more incoherent. Aryaa was staring at me, and seemed very unsatisfied. I too would become
"Well, we become stars when we die." I was relieved at being able to find a good 'answer. And I quickly changed the topic to her favorite cartoons as I was afraid that more difficult 'philosophical' questions would come out of her innocent mind.

"Papa, Yukta says we become butterflies when we die." She said again after a few days.
"Who told her so?"
"Yukta says her Papa and Mama said so."
"OK, well----. Some people become stars and some butterflies. People choose it themselves." I don't remember what we talked about after that, but it wasn't anything philosophical.

During last six months, she has heard about some deaths in relatives' families. Her school too was closed for a day due to the death of one of its founders. She also came to know that dead bodies are cremated in some societies and buried in some. So she has found a lot of questions to ask. 

I will post about that in my future posts.



May 12, 2012

Not What You Expect from a Teacher

“Papa, why is our ‘Nepali’ teacher always so angry with me?” Aryaa said during dinner some days ago.  
“Is that so?” we were surprised by this, we hadn’t heard like this before.
‘Yes, it is. She seems she doesn’t like me. She is irritated whenever I ask anything. When I don’t understand something and ask her ‘teacher what’s this?’ she scolds me and says ‘you are the biggest student of this class and you don’t know even this?’”

Now we were really worried. It’s not what we expect from a teacher. It’s really very bad to treat a child like that.

So I went to the school the next day and had a lengthy discussion with the Principal. He was sorry for the teacher and promised to talk with her, and also with all other teachers. He promised that it won’t happen again. Aryaa hasn’t talked about any similar incident recently, so we hope her teacher is not behaving like that now.

And about this ‘biggest---‘ tag. Aryaa is having some problem because of her height. She is taller than all of her classmates, so everybody thinks she is older. The teacher, at least should have checked her birth date in school records before making any conclusions. This used to happen in Japan too. Aryaa started going to kindergarten when she was one and she was always taller than all the kids in her classes. Her teachers used to carry smaller ones in lap during story times etc. Aryaa too expected this affection but she got very few such chances because of her height. It’s not that her teachers didn’t love her, but they always tended to the smaller ones first.

Taller children are thought of being older in age too. You can’t blame someone in the street thinking like that but a teacher should be careful about the psychology of the child.

Feb 24, 2012

Double Rainbow

"Papa, look at the rainbow, so beautiful!" Aryaa entered the study room one afternoon. I went to the window and looked outside. There was a rainbow over Kaundanda (name of a mountain). 


"And there are two---!" She screamed while I was taking the above pic. She spotted the second one earlier than me. The double rainbow spanned mountains in east and north from us. Due to buildings and hillocks in front of our residence, I couldn't photograph the whole of the double rainbow, could only get pics of two ends. I hope someone has captured the whole of this double rainbow.




Feb 14, 2012

Preparing for a Happy Childbirth


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Along with the heightened awareness and excitement of welcoming a new life into the world, the weeks approaching the delivery date shouldn’t be a time of added stress for expecting moms. One of the most important practices during this time will be to utilize stress reduction strategies, such as breathing techniques, open communication, and relaxation through meditation. Another way to relieve stress and to have some fun is to prepare yourself and your home for your coming newborn.

Through the use of to-do lists, time management, and delegating responsibility, you will be prepared to see the end of your term and have your baby come home. The following l areas should provide a starting point for ideas on how to ensure a happy delivery experience and healthy newborn.

Delivery Day Preparation
One tool that is provided to women by clinics and hospitals is childbirth classes. Besides having an opportunity to share experiences with other mothers in the area, classes will add to the familiarity of the facility and its standard procedures. It also allows new moms the chance to learn about optional procedures, like cord blood banking. This increasingly popular practice of collecting the stem cells from the umbilical cord blood has shown promise as a possible treatment for health conditions that could affect the newborn or a sibling.

Classes will also cover specialized exercises to help delivery go smoothly. Either here, or in one of the final check-ups with the obstetrician, it’s a good idea to bring up preferences. Information about water birthing or additional therapies to limit stress, such as aromatherapy and music, should be requested prior to delivery day.

For Baby Safety
There are a number of necessary items that need to be obtained in advance of delivery day. Buying used items, such as a car seat or crib, is acceptable, but these should be inspected to ensure they meet new federal guidelines for safety. New guidelines for cribs, for instance, were issued in 2011 to prevent injuries, and new car seats often require instruction of proper use. Seeking out expert opinions on important items for the nursery can help mothers stay organized.

Make a Birth Plan
During delivery, it is easy to get caught off guard and make decisions that you are not totally familiar or comfortable with concerning your delivery. Taking the time to review options and making as many decisions before the big event will make it easier to focus should the unexpected happen. Share these decisions with loved ones and the health care provider so everyone involved knows what you want for the birth.

This article was written by Alan Cassidy, an active writer within the blogging community covering maternity and childbirth, and always advocating for infant and children’s health. Connect with him on Twitter @ACassidy22

Dec 2, 2011

A MS-Paint drawing

Aryaa loves to type A, B, C, D--- in computer. She has started demanding computer games too, but till now I haven't managed any. Once I taught her to draw some basic shapes in MS-Paint. Here is what she showed me after a few practices.