Jun 29, 2009

Enter any house and join the meal

Aryaa and her mom are back from Nepal.

Aryaa liked her stay in Nepal very much. She grew very intimate with family members especially her youngest uncle and aunt. She cried a lot after getting separated from them in the airport in Kathmandu. She wanted her uncle and aunt to come to Japan with her. Sobita says Aryaa’s uncle and aunt too were crying outside.

I can feel that too. I can see the sadness in Aryaa’s face. It’s not that she is not intimate with us but for the time being, she is not happy to be here. She is missing her uncles, aunts, cousins, grandparents and all the friends that she made in the village.

We are happy that she can speak some Nepali now. But she has forgotten some of her Japanese; she will have some difficulty in adjusting here again. She was very reluctant to go the kindergarten on her first day after being back.

After seeing her learn this much Nepali in just one month, I don’t have any worry now about what to do after returning back to Nepal permanently. She will be fluent in Nepali within a few months.

I always thought that a joint family is very good for the psychological/emotional development of a child and my belief has strengthened now. Children should have a very intimate relation with father and mother, there is no doubt about that but they also need grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins and a lot of friends of their age. So it’s better to provide them with these ‘relations’ as much as possible. Some people fight with their parents and in-laws and stop their children from having any relationship with those people. Such parents are doing a lot of harm to their children; it’s a crime against children.

Even if the joint family is impossible in this so called “busy and modern” lifestyle, children need to grow up in a close-knit community. They should be able to enter any house and join the meal. They should feel being loved in any house and with any person in the community.

Sadly, such communities are getting fewer and fewer.

Let's give our children such an intimate and close-knit community in which they can enter any house and feel being loved.

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Jun 22, 2009

Please enjoy these HUSBAND-WIFE jokes:)

Burning brain

Husband and wife were fighting from early morning.

Husband:Please leave me alone. My brain is 'burning'!
Wife: No wonder, this house smells of burning cow dung!

The tantrum wife

There was once a wife who was very suspicious of her husband. Every evening after the husband came back from work, she would check all his clothes and bags. Anything, even the gifts that the husband brought for her could raise her suspicion and she would yell at her husband "Whom did you buy this for? Who is that bitch---?". Even a small piece of hair was enough, "Who was that bitch in the afternoon--?"

One day, this gentleman 'cleaned' all his clothes and bag very well before entering the house. The wife checked but couldn't find anything. She couldn't even find hairs on his clothes. The husband was very confident that he wouldn't be yelled at.

After waiting for a moment, the wife started, "So now you're cheating on me with a bald woman!"

Happy Home

Every evening, neighbors heard Mulla Nasruddin and his wife Gulshan laughing out very loud. They never heard them fighting. Neighbors thought this very strange.

"Mulla, all of us have fights in our homes. We hear shouting and crying from every house in this neighborhood. But we hear laughter only from your house. Don't you two fight at all?", they once asked Mulla.
"My friends, we too fight. She throws plates, shoes and brooms at me every evening. When she hits me, she laughs and when she can't, I laugh."


Mulla Nasruddin and his wife went to court for divorce.
"How long have you been married?", the judge asked the husband.
"30 years."
"Why do you want divorce?"
"Sir, she hits me. she throws plates, shoes and whatever at me everyday!"
"How long has she been doing this?"
"15 years."
"My friend, you are married for 30 years, you have already endured it for 15 years, why do you need divorce now?"
"Sir, it was OK for 15 years but she has become a 'sharp-shooter' now."

Husband's wish fulfilled

A Fairy Godmother told a married couple: "For being such an exemplary married couple for 35 years, I will give you each a wish".

"I want to travel around the world with my dearest husband" said the wife.

The Fairy moved her magic stick and abracadabra! two tickets appeared in her hands.

Now it was the husband's turn. He thought for a moment and said: "Well this moment is very romantic, but an opportunity like this only occurs once in a lifetime. So.....I'm sorry my love, but my wish is to have a wife 30 years younger than me".

The wife was deeply disappointed, but a wish was a wish. The Fairy made a circle with her magic stick and.....abracadabra!... Suddenly the husband was 90 years old.

And finally, the best definition of a 'Bachelor';

The only man who has never told his wife a lie.

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Jun 14, 2009

Just a short update today

I couldn't decide what to write today but as I have made a promise of updating this blog once a week, I am here with just a short update.

While starting this blog, I hadn't thought of making this blog a 'public' (or whatever word can be given) one. It's not that I wanted to make it 'invited only' but I didn't think of 'marketing' it too. It was to be there only, to be updated once a while. I wanted to read it after a few or many years.

I couldn't write anything for a year. After re-activating it after a year, I wanted to share it as much as possible. Parenting is a great experience, with great joys and great pains, and it is better to share this experience.

I have found that there is a very large and active "Parenting Blogs" community from almost all the countries and communities. It is great to read experiences of these parents. I just feel an intimate bond with them.
Recently, I made some changes in the layout. I want to make it more informative, with links and references and more interactive with some kind of platform for "parenting" discussions etc. I am still working on it.

Lastly, I want to thank you for visiting this blog!

Jun 7, 2009

Children create their own World---

Children create their own World wherever they are or whichever new place they go to.

Aryaa and her mother are in Nepal for a month. And I am living a 'junk food dependent' lonely life:)

Aryaa was very excited to be visiting 'her' NEPA-RU ('Nepal', in Japanese language) but we were worried that it would be difficult for Aryaa to adjust in the new environment, especially due to the language problem. I was just afraid that she would cry all the time and insist her mother to return to Japan immediately.

But it seems that I am still not good at reading child psychology:) She is perfectly happy in the new environment and adapted to it may be more easily than her mother:)

During my frequent calls to Sobita, I can hear Aryaa playing and laughing heartily with other kids.
"How does she speak with other kids? And other kids with her?" I was curious to know.
"It's strange!" Sobita sounded surprised. "Aryaa speaks Japanese and other kids speak Nepalese, but they go along very well." It's interesting!

And she has become very intimate to her BAHINI(cousin sister) who is two years younger than her. Once when I was talking with her mother, I heard Aryaa explaining to her little BAHINI about her beautiful Chopsticks that she took from here!

Her best friend in the village is a girl of her age. I was 'best' friends with the father of this lovely girl in my childhood. A line 'this used to be my playground' came to my mind suddenly. It was 'our' playground once and now a new generation is sowing its dreams there. Well, life is beautiful and that just because of children.

After a couple of weeks in home, Aryaa seems to be learning Nepali too. Understanding others is no problem at all and she has even started speaking many words, according to her mom. She has even started fighting with other kids and protects her toys from others very 'efficiently'.

A fighting kid might not sound a good idea but I am using it in a good sense. Aryaa was too gentle here. When some other kids wanted to play what she was playing, she wouldn't say anything. She would just leave there and find something else for her. She used to 'fight' with us only:) In Japan, it's not a big problem as most of the kids are not aggressive. I was worried that she would suffer in Nepal but she proved me wrong again! She has already learned to defend herself:)

Everything is fine but I am sad as Aryaa is so happy that she doesn't even care much about her poor lonely father here. She doesn't come to the phone much and even if she comes, only talks very briefly, tells me "to come to Nepal" and runs away. Poor me:)

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